‘You make new friends literally everywhere you go!’ This is the reaction I typically get when sharing my latest story on how I met my new best friend in the restaurant Ladies room, or found that the person sat next to me in a cafe is taking a holiday to the same destination as me on the same dates! This kind of thing happens to me all the time – and it’s because I love connecting with people. Not only do I love it, it comes naturally to me – I couldn’t stop myself if I tried. But there was a time when I couldn’t connect – not to others, not even to myself.
Depression is different for everyone, but for me the best way to describe it is as a complete and total disconnect. I was disconnected from reality, disconnected from my body, disconnected from my emotions – and I couldn’t see a way out. As dark as that period of my life was, today, I’m so thankful for it. The road to recovery from this deep depression was the ultimate teacher.
I now see that my life had taken a predictable turn. Since childhood I had been in this cycle of allowing my anxiety to push me harder and harder to achieve, to the point where I would burnout and sink into a depression. Anxiety would pull me out of the depressive episode to start the whole cycle again. And each depressive episode was slightly worse than the one before, until…
Spiritual awakening. Otherwise known as a breakdown. I prefer spiritual awakening, don’t you? (Thanks Brené Brown!) For so long, my body had been trying to tell me something was wrong. And I was ignoring it. In doing so, I was weakening my connection to my true self until ultimately, the connection broke.
Fast forward a few years and throw in; a therapist I am convinced is an angel, a ton of personal development books, a handful of retreats and seminars, a month of yoga training in India and a lot of inner journeying…and I am pleased to say the connection has been reformed. But it’s different this time. The connection before was to my true self – but it was clouded by layers and layers of conditioning, beliefs that didn’t serve me, and my good friend anxiety. The line wasn’t clear. I’ve done a huge amount of work to peel back the layers and clear up the connection.
In doing this work, I’ve realised that my ability to connect with others directly correlates with the clarity of my inner connection. And it is my calling to share this with you. Whether you want to connect better with your customers through marketing, or connect better with your readers through your words – it starts with connecting to you. The real you.