‘You make new friends literally everywhere you go!’
This is the reaction I typically get when sharing my latest story on how I met my new best friend in the restaurant Ladies room, or found that the person sat next to me in a cafe is taking a holiday to the same destination as me on the same dates!
This kind of thing happens to me all the time – and it’s because I love connecting with people.
Not only do I love it, it comes naturally to me – I couldn’t stop myself if I tried. It’s no wonder my career has been in sales, marketing and entrepreneurship!
But there was a time when I couldn’t connect – not to others, not even to myself.
Depression is different for everyone, but for me the best way to describe it is as a complete and total disconnect.
I was disconnected from reality, disconnected from my body, disconnected from my emotions – and I couldn’t see a way out.
As dark as that period of my life was, today, I’m so thankful for it. The road to recovery from this deep depression was the ultimate teacher.
I now see that my life had taken a predictable turn. Since childhood I had been in this cycle of allowing my anxiety to push me harder and harder to achieve, to the point where I would burnout and sink into a depression. Anxiety would pull me out of the depressive episode to start the whole cycle again. And each depressive episode was slightly worse than the one before, until…
Spiritual awakening. Otherwise known as a breakdown. I prefer spiritual awakening, don’t you? (Thanks Brené Brown!) For so long, my body had been trying to tell me something was wrong. And I was ignoring it. In doing so, I was weakening my connection to my true self until ultimately, the connection broke.
Fast forward a few years and throw in; a therapist I am convinced is an angel, a ton of personal development books, a handful of retreats and seminars, a month of yoga training in India and a lot of inner journeying…and I am pleased to say the connection has been reformed.
But it’s different this time. The connection before was to my true self – but it was clouded by layers and layers of conditioning, beliefs that didn’t serve me, and my good friend anxiety.
I was working so hard to try and create purpose in my life – but we can’t simply create purpose. We have to connect to our soul’s purpose, and live in alignment with it.
I’ve done a huge amount of work since then to peel back the layers and clear up the connection – and it’s brought me face to face with my soul’s purpose.
And that purpose is to guide others in discovering their soul’s purpose, and living a life that’s in alignment with it.
So now I’m dedicated to using my skills to help others with their wellbeing. I still love to put my sales and marketing skills into practice – but only when working with brands that have a positive impact on the lives of others. I still have an uncanny ability to connect with almost anyone – and now I’m focusing that skill in order to coach and mentor people towards a life they will love.
If any of this connects with you, I’d love to hear from you and see how we could work together.